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This subtle, toxic behavior is known as passive-aggression.

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This behavior is characterized by subtle comments or actions that may lead to mixed signals, as the speaker avoids direct communication about his or her feelings of displeasure.

We人妖色情片檙e faced with passive-aggressive behavior in all walks of life. Think about your work colleagues 人妖色情片� or disgruntled service workers you encounter while running errands.

You might even face it at home, from your partner or child 人妖色情片� especially if they人妖色情片檙e having a bad day. Or from a friend or relative who doesn人妖色情片檛 return your calls or texts.

A passive-aggressive person may appear to be polite, friendly, kind and well meaning. However, manipulation could be taking place underneath.

How does it show up?

According to Bariso, (www.eqapplied.com), passive-aggressive behavior may exhibit itself in a variety of ways:

1. The Silent Treatment: After agreeing to do things a certain way, the other person avoids you as much as possible. They refuse to engage 人妖色情片� or turn a cold shoulder.

2. The Sulker: We人妖色情片檙e used to this behavior in kids, although plenty of adults do it, too. When the passive-aggressive person doesn人妖色情片檛 get their way, they can become sad and bitter, sucking the joy out of any room they enter.

3. The Forgetter: Your coworker, family member or friend may agree to help with a task, but then they don人妖色情片檛 follow through. They may claim they 人妖色情片渇orgot人妖色情片� when they had no intention of helping out in the first place, according to Bariso. Or they simply procrastinate to the point that you (or someone else) need to take over.

4. The Low Performer: Instead of completely failing to follow through on a task, this person carries it out but does so sloppily. On the outside they pretend like they人妖色情片檙e being supportive. By performing below expectations, though, they let their true feelings shine through.

5. The Needler: This person uses sarcasm or backhanded compliments to try to undermine your sense of self-confidence 人妖色情片� or eat away at your nerves. They may seem like they人妖色情片檙e being vague, but they know exactly what they人妖色情片檙e doing.

Ten things passive- aggressive people say

These ten common phrases, compiled by licensed social worker Signe Whittson (www.signewhittson.com), can serve as an early-warning system, helping you recognize hidden hostility when it人妖色情片檚 being directed your way.

Whittson is a co-author of the book, 人妖色情片淭he Angry Smile: The Psychology of Passive-Aggressive Behavior in Families, Schools, and Workplaces.人妖色情片�

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2. 人妖色情片淔ine. Whatever.人妖色情片� (shutting down direct communication)

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4. 人妖色情片淚 didn人妖色情片檛 know you meant now.人妖色情片� (using procrastination to frustrate others)

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10. 人妖色情片淲hy are you getting so upset? (setting others up to lose their cool 人妖色情片� and then acting shocked at their overreactions)

What are the causes?

So, why does the passive-aggressive person resort to these tactics? Why not communicate directly? Well, it人妖色情片檚 complicated.

The person exhibiting this behavior may not even be consciously aware he or she is doing it. Maybe they人妖色情片檙e 人妖色情片減eople pleasers人妖色情片� who have a difficult time dealing with conflict, so they resort to these indirect methods.

Anger and resentment rear their ugly heads here, as well. A passive-aggressive person may have so many layers of negative feelings built up 人妖色情片� by not dealing directly in the past 人妖色情片� that it exhibits itself in a number of other ways.

The website points out some of the potential triggers:

• Upbringing: If a person was raised in an environment where the direct expression of emotions was discouraged, he or she may carry this prohibition of feelings into adulthood 人妖色情片� and resort to other ways to channel their frustrations.
• Situational characteristics: When one is in a situation where direct communication that may be confrontational is not socially acceptable, they might be more inclined to respond in a covert way.

Emotional toolbox

When confronted by a friend, co-worker or romantic partner who regularly engages in passive-aggressive behavior, what can you do?

• Keep your anger in check: Don人妖色情片檛 get defensive. Passive-aggressive behavior often aims to provoke frustration. Staying calm keeps the situation from escalating.
• Address behavior directly, although gently: Name the behavior without attacking the person. For example, 人妖色情片淚 noticed you seemed upset when I brought that up, but you said it was fine. Is there something you人妖色情片檇 like to talk about?人妖色情片�
• Don人妖色情片檛 play along: Avoid sarcasm, guilt-tripping or indirect communication yourself. Model direct, respectful behavior even if they don人妖色情片檛.
• Ask for clarification: If they人妖色情片檙e vague or evasive, ask open-ended questions to clarify their meaning. This can gently push them toward more honest communication.
• Know when to walk away: If the passive-aggressive behavior is persistent and harmful 人妖色情片� and discussion doesn人妖色情片檛 help 人妖色情片� it may be best to set some boundaries. Limit your interaction or seek support (especially in a workplace or family setting).

Looking in the mirror

If some of this sounds familiar, don人妖色情片檛 worry. 人妖色情片淲e all engage in some of the above behaviors from time to time,人妖色情片� says psychotherapist Andrea Harrn (www.andreaharrn.co.uk) 人妖色情片淧assive aggression is when the behavior is more persistent and repetitive, with ongoing patterns.人妖色情片�

Take a step back and look at your own behavior:

• Improve your self-awareness: Recognize when you人妖色情片檙e avoiding, sulking, procrastinating or using sarcasm.
• Practice expressing yourself: Conflict is an unavoidable part of life. Knowing how to assert your feelings before a sticky situation arises can go a long way.
• Start paying attention when you人妖色情片檙e triggered by people and situations

Clearly, a lot of our communications can get lost in translation. That人妖色情片檚 why it人妖色情片檚 even more important not to add layers of deception.

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